8 Steps To Leading a Great Small Group
Leading a small group discussion on a retreat can be an amazing and scary experience for youth. Here are eight steps to help you lead an effective and engaging small group discussion that encourages all youth to be heard:
Write a Small Group Covenant: The first step in preparing for the retreat is to write a small group covenant with the group. This outlines the expectations and responsibilities of each group member, being present and aware when the group has started, respectful communication, and participating in activities. Encourage the youth to create the covenant, and remind them of it when each small group starts.
Learn Each Youth’s Name: Take the time to learn each person’s name and encourage them to learn each other's names. Using each other's names can help to create a sense of belonging and increase the level of trust within the group. When people feel valued and recognized, they are more likely to participate in discussions and activities and feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings. Making an effort to use each other's names helps to promote a supportive and inclusive environment where all youth feel heard and valued.
Create a Safe and Supportive Environment: To ensure that all small group members feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings, create a safe and supportive environment. Encourage open and honest communication and actively listen to what each youth has to say. Make sure everyone feels heard and valued, regardless of their opinions or beliefs.
Stay On Topic: It's important to keep the discussion focused on the topic at hand. If the discussion begins to veer off, gently steer the group back to the task at hand. This will help to maintain the focus of the discussion and ensure that all youth have an opportunity to share their thoughts and opinions on the topic. Maintaining a clear focus will also help to keep the discussion engaging and productive.
Encourage Active Listening: Encourage the youth to practice active listening by paying attention to each other and avoiding distractions. Ask the youth to summarize what they heard from their peers or even you as the leader can say,” This is what I hear you saying… Active listening not only helps to keep the discussion on track but also promotes understanding and empathy between group members. As a Small Group Leader, you should try and talk as little as possible but actively listen. Watch this great Video on listening: https://youtu.be/i3ku5nx4tMU
Embrace Silence: As a leader, it's important not to be afraid of silence when asking questions. Give your group time to think about their responses before jumping in with your own thoughts. Encourage them to take their time and consider their answer carefully. Allowing for moments of silence can help to create a more reflective and thoughtful discussion, and give each youth an opportunity to have their voice heard.
Foster Relationships: The retreat is a great opportunity for youth to get to know each other and build relationships. Encourage youth to spend time getting to know each other through activities and discussions outside of the small group meetings. Building strong relationships will not only create a more supportive and inclusive environment but also promote trust and open communication within the group. Maybe encourage the group to all do the same Free Choice together for example.
Remember to Have Fun: Finally, don't forget to have fun! The retreat weekend should be an enjoyable and memorable experience for all youth. Encourage youth to relax, have fun, and make the most of their time together. A positive and lighthearted atmosphere can help to create a more welcoming and inclusive environment, encouraging youth to feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and opinions.
The best way is to do it. As you lead a small group you will get better and better, and you will use skills you hone there all throughout life. Finally, if you get into a discussion or situation where you know you need help, just ask for it.
